One of the first steps to trying to save a marriage is seeking for help. The reason behind this is, you sometimes need a different person to give you insight into your issue and help you understand it better. It is therefore important for a couple to get a professional counselor in such a situation.
Look out for the counselor’s qualifications. In order for one to be called a professional counselor, there are various qualifications different places require them to have. When in doubt, do not hesitate to ask them, to provide proof of their license as a marriage counselor as this will keep your mind at ease.
The other thing you need to consider despite their qualification is their years of experience. The longer a counselor has been practicing for, the better equipped they are to handle your marital issues. Most new counselors mostly have theoretical solutions to your issues and may not help address your problems well.
Choosing an unbiased counselor is another thing you need to do as a couple. With this in mind, do not go to a counselor that is a friend or knows about you outside of counseling as they will not be able to give solutions that favor the both of you. The best counselor to go to is the one whose emotions are not going to influence their solutions.
The counselor you choose should share the same beliefs as you. of you two are religious or conform to a particular lifestyle, having a counselor that is against that may not set well with you. Find out ht their opinion is on issues like divorce, same sex marriage, polygamy, and polyandry are before you start on your counseling sessions. These will go a long way in determining how the counselor reacts to the issues you two have.
A counseling session can only be successful if there is a level of confidence between the couple and counselor. A couple can only open up and talk about their issues if they trust the counselor. Do not go to a counselor you are both uncomfortable with as you will not get anywhere.
The other thing you need to factor in is the cost for counseling. Different counselors charge different rates an you two need to settle on one you can afford. Payment may become another issue you two have to deal with, therefore, figure out a payment plan.
Figure out when the two of you are available for a session before you see the counselor as they mostly work during normal working hours. If you are using during the day, you can find a counselor that has sessions past normal working hours. A counseling session is only effective if the two of you are available.